Are you a ‘get’ or ‘give’ type of hockey player?
The past number of months, I have worked with many teams helping to get everyone on the same page, working to establish an agreed-upon culture and help to identify any issues that could be preventing the team from maximizing individual abilities.
A major part of this is the attitude of the player and how well they fit into the team concept.
One exercise we do is identifying “get” and “give” players and how the two very different attitudes impact the team and the team’s results.
What is a “Get” or “Give” Player?
Some athletes are primarily focused on what they get for themselves (“what do I get?”) within the team structure. They want to know if they can…
• Get to score even when they may not be in a position to
• Get to show up for practice when they want
• Get to start
• Get to always be in the lineup
• Get to play more minutes
• Get attention as the star of the team
• Get to give less than their best because they’ve been on the team awhile
• Get to do what they want at the expense of teammates
• Get rewards beyond the team (scholarships, individual awards)
• Get to have the trust of others when they don’t trust teammates
Now, there are other who have a “what can I give?” approach. They are focused on giving. What they get is not the priority. These players…
• Give their best effort in all practices, training and games
• Give the team an example of their team values in action every day
• Give their team a positive attitude no matter what the circumstances
• Give their team a lift even playing a small amount of minutes
• Give their team a chance to win no matter what position they play
• Give other players a chance to get the glory
• Give the team an example of sacrifice for the better of the group
• Give the team an example they can follow
• Give coaches a very coachable attitude
Why You Must Be a “Give” Player
There are many advantages to be a give player. Here are a few reasons:
• Every coach looks for the “what can I give” athlete for their team – coaches look for reasons not to select the “what do I get” athlete
• It’s far more fun to be on a team with “what can I give” athletes – the culture is more honest, humbler and teammates generally trust each other
• It’s a funny thing in life that the more you give – the more you seem to get back – so a player who gives also “gets” in return
What is the Result of a “What Can I Give” Culture?
The best example of a culture of giving in sports is the New Zealand All Blacks – rugby’s most successful team in history with an 86 percent winning percentage. Their “sweep the sheds” culture and attitude not only promote an honest, high performing, family environment – but they also win!
After every game, the All Blacks players sweep the locker room of every last piece of grass, tape, and mud. They take responsibility for leaving the locker room the way they found it. No one looks after the All Blacks – they look after themselves. They also strive to leave “the shirt” in a better place than they got it when they eventually leave the program. They are not there to “get,” they are there to “give.”
Are you a “get” or “give” type of player? If you are a “get” player, you may consider what it might take for you to become a more “give” player. You may be surprised that a transition to a “give” player may help you “get” exactly what you want.
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— HockeyShot Mental & Emotional Coach John Haime
(Aug. 17, 2018)